Prepare Yourself For 8 Ways to Give Yourself the Gift
of Forgiveness & Freedom From Analysis Paralysis

Video Dated: July 07, 2022

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Good morning. Happy Wednesday, hope you guys are doing awesome. Here we are again. We are after the fourth of July. I don't know if you can believe it, but I can't believe it. Here we are a second part of the year 2022. Before we get started, go ahead and share this, I want people to be able to have these tools and have this support. Tomorrow I'm going to be sharing an infographic which has this information and be able to see it. I'm a kinesthetic learner, a visual learner, an auditory learner, but I definitely when I see it, I can remember it even better.

So look for this infographic tomorrow. But for today, we're going to actually go over it in some detail. Now, the idea is I want you to prepare yourself, I want you to grab a pen and paper, even though you're going to have the infographic tomorrow. So you can write it down. As you write it down, you begin to memorize these things. And these are going to be eight ways to give yourself that freedom to make choices. So that analysis, paralysis is not going to be locking you down, right.

This is not just you by the way, it's important to know this stuff that's going on for a lot of people, interestingly enough talking about this topic actually has me feel it a little bit more. So I have to actually slow down and think more about what I'm going to be saying and doing. Just because it's something that I've had to work with over my lifetime. Alright, so go ahead, I'm going to do the same thing, share this out. So I'm going to share it, it's in my group, I'm going to be sharing it to my page, and I'm gonna be sharing it to my business page. So make sure that you're sharing this to other people so that way they can, they can get this information, they can come into the group, they can join the group, I have it open now.

So if they join the group, even right now, I'll be able to accept them. So let me make sure that we don't have any new folks coming in even right this second. And while we're waiting, what I'd love for you to do is just jot in the comments, any particular areas that you feel like, you know what this is an area that does get me stuck, this is an area that I do feel like, you know, when I try to make decisions, I just don't know what direction to go in, just go ahead and jot them down. And my request is you're in this group, this is a safe group, these are folks that are dealing with the same thing as you. So they're a part of this group, because they want to shift out of negative thinking. And they want to shift out of negative habits, and they want to shift out of anything that's holding them down.

So think about this group as a place where you can share your thoughts and share your questions and share support. Please do anytime you want to add any posts that you think are helpful, because the idea is, as we see other people are dealing with these things and working through them. Oh, yeah. So can we so want to make sure that you're continuing to to practice that and live into that. Okay, so nope, nope, no members popped on right now. So all the others I have already accepted. So everybody's in. Now, this is a private group. So when you're sharing it, you're going to need to share the link that is tinyurl.com, forward slash create ease, that will get them to freedom from negative thinking.

And I'm probably going to be changing the name of the group, from A to anxiety relief for entrepreneurs. So keep a lookout for that change. Just because I've been learning some different things about social media that that is a more specific name to help people understand what the group is for. And it's not just for entrepreneurs. But since a big amount of you already are entrepreneurs, it just gets more specific into some of the topics that you guys are talking about. But the same things work for people who are working for somebody else, because technically, you're doing a lot on your own, and you're gonna have the same problems, the same questions, it just might look a little bit differently as you're working for an employer.

So don't feel like if you're not an entrepreneur, you have to leave the group where you can't join. It's just some of the questions, we'll be specifically addressing those concerns. Alright, so we're gonna go ahead and get started. And as in with almost every session that I do, even though I put them in an order, I'm putting them in order just so you can keep tabs on the number that I'm putting here. They're not in a particular order. So one does not mean you have to address one first, but I try to put them in a priority order. So as you're looking at it, you can see Well, number one is essential for me to use during every one of these other steps as well. And number one is to trust yourself and open up to all of your options. When you're stuck in analysis paralysis, the number one thing that is missing is trust. You are not trusting yourself. And within that there is all Often huge amounts of fear.

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So help yourself to know what's going on help yourself to take a look at what is it that I am afraid of, and write it down, get it out of your head. Number one, get it out of your head, well, this is the number one to the number one, get it out of your head, ruminating on it, or all the different complications that you're trying to assess. It's too much in here, you can only hold seven to nine bits of information on a conscious level, take your paper, jot it down, it will help you to get it out. Right? That same thing I do with these points, I jot down my ideas. And then I start to change them, shift them, move them around, and you get what you get after I've had time to think it through.

So when you're allowing yourself to take a look at what your options are, you're then able to get more creative, you're allowing your mind which is a creative, absolutely creative. I don't want to say substance, but it's a creative platform, when you're allowing yourself to go Okay, so these are the ideas that I have. Oh, well, now that I have that written down my mind is thinking through some stuff now that I'm no longer stressing this stuff, ruminating on it, I could see there's this option and that option and this option and that option. Right. And I always ask Google, right, what else does Google think about this? Because Google was ideas of many people. So I take a look at that. It allows you to take a look at all of your options, whether or not you want them or not.

So then you can go okay, cool. And this actually leads into number two and number three, kind of together. So number two is ask others who've done this before. And so that's where you're looking at Google, that's where you're talking to other people. And if you're not sure, ask them, Hey, I'm looking at this situation, have you ever had to address this kind of situation before? And a lot of times, you'll see that maybe it's not exactly what you're doing. But people have had to go through situations like it. So it gives you the cool thing is if it's not exactly yours, it gives you even more options to go. Oh, so this could actually work in that kind of situation to never even thought about that.

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Okay, cool. So it's okay, even if you're just talking to somebody who's only been a parent their whole life, then you get to take a look and go shoot only a parent, I can't believe I was saying only a parent, as a parent, you have to be like the teacher, they have to be like the nurse, they have to be like the babysitter, they have to be like the counselor, they have to be, wow, they have done all these things. So there's times when we're limiting others just based on our own stuff. And that's, that's normal, there's nothing wrong with it. As far as beating yourself up, don't do that. There is just a way to go, oh, well, I've got some limiting thoughts and some limiting beliefs we do. That's just what we do. As people it happens, give yourself a break. Right? Give yourself a flippin break.

And then this goes right into number three, also look at the pros and cons. So in doing this, this allows your creativity to start flowing. So for example, if I'm taking a look at making a choice, and I say, okay, so if I make this choice, what could the outcome be? That would work out? It could be this and it could be this? And it could be that and it could be this? Okay, cool. Well, what could the outcome be that it wouldn't work out? Well, it could be this and it could be that and it could be this and it could be that. And then you can weigh them. Now, if your bias, then you have to take a look at maybe your opinions, and your experiences are not the best to look at. If like me, you've come from a police have in the past not so much now, because I've had a lot of new experiences.

But when I was first getting started out, I had a negative perspective about a lot of things. And then on the other hand, I had this Pollyanna perspective that like everything's gonna be just fine. Right? And so that was because of the way I was raised. I was raised in a very harsh environment. And so for me to kind of cope through it, I just sort of tried to forget everything. And so it's like, everything's okay, everything's just fine. I'm not even looking at that over there. Everything's okay, everything's just fine. And so I had two different views, and neither one was the safest for myself. And, you know, in making decisions. Now, if I'm making average decisions, there's not a lot of safety that I have to look at, then it's okay, make a decision, see what happens.

Okay, that didn't work. Great. But if there is something where you've got to take a look, is this going to, if I'm choosing a college, or I'm choosing to buy a car, or I'm choosing these things, and I'm not looking at all the ideas, and all of the options and all of the risks, I might make a very poor decision and have myself screwed for a very long time. So in those situations, and not always, by the way, did I ask for help, but in those situations, you really, really, really, please learn from my experiences. Ask for help. And you want to ask the proper people ask the people who know ask the people who've been there Not the ones who are making the same mistakes, okay?

And a mistake is a mistake, you're just going to learn from it. Right? And so that actually goes into number four. No matter what, unless you're dead. A mistake is just a mistake. Right? Some of them, they will actually there, there have been some mistakes we make where we die. Right? Oops, I shouldn't have jumped. Right? I thought if I jumped, I would hit the water. But no, I jumped in hit the rocks. Like, there's stuff we do, we don't know. And it can take or life. But if you're alive, that mistake is there for you to learn from. Now, some of them like mistakes I've learned by partnering with the wrong person in a business. I had to pay for 10 years, literally, I literally had to pay out of my pocket. And I was in my 20s. And I didn't. Looking back, there were enough red flags that I could have known better. But I didn't, I thought I could trust this person because of things that I was seeing.

But looking back now and like, there was a lot of details I was missing out there. wasn't asking wasn't listening. And, you know, it happens now that was actually in my 30s, not my 20s. But I was still in a space of being like I was in my 20s as far as business wise and making mature decisions. So yes, there are some times where the risk is going to be heavy. But you get to allow yourself to realize you're going to work through it, you're going to make wiser decisions. And did I ever make wiser decisions after that? And I asked different people and I listened to you even even like in the past, when somebody was saying don't do it.

I was like, well, they don't got my best interests at heart. Sometimes even the person who seems like they don't have your best interests at heart, maybe they do. And maybe they're just not in the best place. So I just listened a little bit more. And so these are things I'm not just sharing with you because they're good ideas, or I looked them up. I am sharing these with you because I had to learn them. And I am somebody who is an introvert and I am somebody who has analysis paralysis. And so it was something that I really had to figure out. So these are not things I'm just sharing with you because it's a good idea. I'm sharing it with you because it works. And you get to have these tools.

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Oh, thank you for the hearts, you get to have these tools, because they're essential for you. Right. Okay. Now, if you're seeing how these can relate for you, if you're seeing how you can apply them or how you have applied them in, they've really worked. Please post in the comments, what you're thinking, how this makes a difference how you're going to apply it, or any thought or hey, this just works out really well or I love this. So this rings true. Whatever it is, there is no bad comment or stupid question. I'll actually go back. And I'll make sure to address any questions that you ask or any comments that you post. So if you're watching on the replay, then please do put them in there as well.

All right, number five. So oftentimes, when people have an opinion, they don't realize their opinion is just an opinion. They have it like that's the truth, and you're supposed to do what they say. Even in these things that I'm sharing with you, if you want to follow them, it's totally up to you, it's your life. If you want to learn everything the harder way, by learning through experience, you absolutely can. It's my opinion based on my life and my experience and through the clients that I've helped, that these things do work. And it's also based on some facts now, as I've also grown through it, and my clients have grown through it.

So it's not just an opinion anymore. But a lot of people do not have facts, they just have well, this worked for me. So it has to be true. But that's not always the case, what works for me might not work for somebody else. But because I have shared with others over and over and over and over again. Now, hundreds of times, I now see that it is also fact in most cases. And it's also fact that if they don't want to listen, they don't have to, they have free will. And they can learn the hard way just like I did. Like I said, in most cases, we're not going to die, it's just gonna hurt a lot. And pain is just part of our lives, it's part of growing, it's part of seeing oop, don't want to touch that because that hurts, right?

Or if I do touch it, I'm in touch in a certain way so that we doesn't hurt. So number five is being aware that everyone has an opinion and an opinion is not always factual. Now an opinion can grow to be factual, just like I'm sharing with you. I've learned those things. And I've practiced those things. And I've also seen that others have verified those same things and other coaches and other therapists and other counselors and other doctors and other teachers and other parents and people who have done the same things. So it's not just my opinion. It's actually through facts of practicing over and over and over and over again. Right.

So it's being able to see doing this thing creates this result and this is what you can do with And you can totally do whatever you want. Both of those are true. So it helps you take a look and see that if somebody has an opinion that they still believe is the right way, or they have the truth, that is totally the right way. You can just say that, okay, that's the right way for you. That's probably the right way I should be doing it. However, this is the way I want to try to do it. Because how is it that we can create something brand new, unless we try something that's brand new.

And so you might come up with a better idea, but because it's not a fact, yet, nobody knows. So it kind of goes back to number one, trusting yourself to open up to all of the options by helping yourself and others to understand, hey, that's your thought on it. And that's okay, you can have that thought on it. I don't want to have it imposed on me. And that's okay. And so it lets you breathe, being able to have your experience, being able to have what it is that you need, and what it is that you're doing. All right, cool beans. So now, we're going to take a look at number six. And this is a big one, sometimes you might do the same thing as the person.

And number five, you might get it into your mind that this is the way I've looked at all of the options. I've asked other people, I allowed myself to see that mistakes, give me space to grow, okay. And now I've got this way is the way, be careful. Because there's lots of ways to still do the same thing. And you might limit yourself, when you could learn another way. And it could be even better. So allow yourself to take a look at, it's okay, if I change my mind. You might be around people that change is hard.

And so it's important to remind them, hey, it's okay. If you change your mind about things. It's okay if I change my mind about things. And when I said it at the time, it was 100%, what I believed and what I felt. And I'm shifting into this new thought, and I want to share with you where I'm at. And we're moving forward. So it's helping you to see that what you had decided on was just an opinion, a lot of facts that we decide are facts.

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For example, I think there was a law, and I'm not 100% sure if this was an actual law, or if it was just something that was going on at the time, in a particular city where you weren't allowed to hold hands, you weren't allowed to kiss out in the open. Right? I'm pretty sure it was some kind of mandate. I don't know if there was a law. But that's not the thing anymore. But if you go to that particular place, it's still the thing, it hasn't been changed. But nobody abides by it anymore.

So it's important to notice that if there is a fact that you come to find out is not correct, or is no longer fitting, then it's okay to talk with others, to change your mind to change the agreement to change whatever it is, but be on the same page as them, don't just jump at them. If you have an agreement and a commitment with them, that's a little bit different. If you're changing your mind and changing your thought you still have a commitment that you made, that's not the same. She want to pay attention and discuss it with the other person.

And you might have to stick to the old way until your commitment is done to whatever that is. Now if you're talking about something that's a lifetime commitment, then there's a whole other thing, then there has to be this new discussion of how can we compromise this if there's space to compromise? Right? So there's a lot of different things you can bring into this. So do ask if you have any questions of exceptions and things like that. But this overall, is a general template of how you can follow what you need to do to keep yourself out of analysis paralysis.

Now, if there is something you've committed to that's a lifetime thing, or you know, something that you're in a place where this is the commitment of this place I've decided to be in, then we get to have a conversation about what's your thought on it, what's your flexibility with it, what's the new commitment that you can make? What's the new conversation that you can have all of those different things to help create this new space to pull you out of analyzing because analyzing isn't allowing you to take action. Taking action moves you into that new space, but we also have to take action appropriately.

We can't just crap on people, and you can't just crap on yourself or your values or things like that. You've got to be able to do this in a way where you still feel healthy, and where you're being healthy to those around you. Okay, all right. So number seven. So as you're in that space of allowing yourself to make change, as you're in that space to realizing that everybody has an opinion and it's okay, as you're in that space of weighing the pros and cons as you're in that space of asking others for you know, what, how did you do this before? And as you're being open to those options, you want to be able to stand strong In whatever your opinion is, or whatever your decision is that you come up with, right and being able to stand strong even in saying,

Well, I don't know how this is going to turn out, but I'm okay with trying this way first. Right? It gives you room to breathe, guys, stop putting all this weight on yourself all this pressure, all this, it has to be one way. It gives yourself room to say, Okay, so I'm trying this one first. So it gives you and the other person room to go. Okay, so there's other options here, we're just going to see what this result is, we're going to try it out. Same thing. I'm practicing social media, right? And I'm practicing what works and what doesn't. And, you know, I really want to know what works. I don't want to practice all this stuff. But it's life goes to go to work.

Unless somebody comes up with something better, that could work better. This is how it's going to work for now. And believe me, I'm looking for better. I'm looking to be open to new opportunities and new options. Because I don't like it. I don't I don't want to test the waters, I want to know what works. I want to be able to reach people to the fullest without floundering into trying this and trying that and trying, but it is what it is. And so sometimes we got to flounder around a little bit to figure out what's going to work and floundering around doesn't have to be right, just like you're turning up the water to find where it's appropriate where warm is good for you. You might not feel like you're floundering because you know exactly what to do you just turn the knob.

Well, in some things you've never done it before. So you might feel like oh my gosh, I've never done this before. I don't know what to do. What's the step was this was that was that. Sometimes it's actually figuring out what the step is the first foundering part, and sometimes you're floundering low, because it's all brand new, and you're around people who maybe it's brand new for them too. And it takes you a little bit to find that person who's done it before. So giving yourself room to be in the attention of it's uncomfortable. A lot of times we run from that, like the plague, let yourself be uncomfortable. Let yourself know that being in that uncomfortable tension is actually what you need. A there, Tony, Tony says yes. And a heart.

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Thank you hearts to us we are. Okay, so what you want to do continue to review over those, you're going to be seeing the infographic. And then the last thing we're going to be taking a look at is you want to be able to review the possible outcomes and run it by others. So once you've gotten some of these outcomes, you can run them by others who have also been through it before or maybe they haven't, maybe they've done something like it. Or maybe it's your team. But otherwise, you're just getting ideas. So let's say this is what's going on, these are your results. And you're like well, the somewhat I'm looking at any one of these could work.

So how do I know for sure what's going to be the most effective? And you kind of go back up again, you look at what's the pros and cons you saw before? Did they change? Is something else leading guiding? What did you learn as you went through the process? What did you learn about? You know, as you were being creative, and you were thinking on it? What did you learn about when you were allowing yourself to change your mind? Did you change your mind on some things, then there's some new pros and cons to look at. And so then you're shaking the look. Okay? So if these are the possible outcomes, and what if they're all the same?

Then just like what I was saying, with the social media, you can do something that's called split testing. test this out first, for a certain amount of time, four weeks, maybe, or one week, one day depends on what you're doing. It could be a conversation, hey, I want to test out how this conversation sounds with you. I don't know exactly what I'm going to say or what I'm going to do my intention have a clear intention is to create this, right. So create connection, create communication, create clarity, create more customers create, understanding my finances, create, understanding what I'm afraid of, there it is. That's your intention. So you allow yourself to go through practicing whatever this is.

So if you're practicing, having communication with a friend, if you're practicing, going out on a date, if you're practicing a particular dating app, if you're practicing, you know what it is that you want to do for your health. See what it is, see what it is going to be how try it on. And then as you're running it by others, you might not even ask the other person what they're thinking, you might just run it by them and see what their response is. That helps you to see how it works. Now, you might want to try it with more than one person because different people respond in different ways. And so that gives you an idea to go okay, so this actually does work but with people that kind of think like this and respond like this. It doesn't work. Okay, so those are my eight points.

And as you're going through that process, it just squashes that analysis paralysis that's going on because you're taking action. You're stepping into these things in there's no point analysis that even needs to linger. Because paralysis is coming from fear. And I don't know what to do, and I'm afraid of the consequences and all of that stuff. And each person is a little bit different. So if you have different thoughts that you're having, you can share them with me. And we can actually talk about that particular analysis, paralysis fear, that you're throwing yourself into confirmation. To practice these eight steps, practice allowing yourself to trust yourself, being open to what others have done, weighing the pros and cons to this, don't tell yourself, you will don't try to do it all in your head, do it on paper, that gets it out of your head.

Think about it like a whiteboard. When you've got it all in your head, the whiteboard is full and overflowing. But when you write it down on the piece of paper, you know, created a whiteboard here on a piece of paper. So the whiteboard is now clear for new information, continue to practice it like that. And if it gets full again, then you have a second whiteboard, you're gonna write down on a piece of paper. And so then you have those two, two pieces of paper that you're looking at, then you've got a clean whiteboard. Again, these pieces of paper can't create, but within your mind, you can. So keep it clear, by writing it down and getting it out of your conscious mind.

Because what happens is your subconscious houses all of your information, like think about it, like the computer hard drive. And what's in front is the desktop. Have you had your desktop full of icons. And it's just like, I don't even know. Now, some people can do that just fine. People like me, I get into overwhelmed very easily. So I have to take it, clear off the desktop, put all that into one folder. And I do that a million times. And then I shift that folder into the full folder. So the idea is you're keeping that desktop that forefront clear.

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To be able to draw and put stuff and see. And the brain is amazing. It's the best computer you'll ever come across. And so it can create, it could think IK and all of your synapses are firing and juices are flowing and ideas from what you're hearing and asking are coming in. Ooh, I like it. I like it. Like, let me write it all down. Okay, cool. I've got some more room. Okay, so I see this and how's that gonna work? And I'm asking this, then pros and cons of this. And I'm allowing myself to look at people's opinions. Doesn't work here does work there doesn't work here doesn't work there. Now it's just their opinion, removing any pressure that they want to put on letting them take their pressure.

Nope, we're not doing that. That's just your thought in your opinion. I appreciate it. Love it, wrote it down here. That's it, don't have to take it on. Just like you don't have to take on my thoughts in my opinion. All right, cool. Feeling really good creating, feel how good that feels, how flowing that is. That's what you create. And it automatically fills in that space for analysis paralysis to just not even be there. Because you've already filled in what you're going to do instead. So it's been a pleasure to be here with you to guide you through this. If there's any specific areas specific challenge, please do let me know. Samantha says paralysis comes from fear. Love that. Yes. 100%.

Hey, Sam, so good to see you. And the cool thing is, is once you're allowing yourself to feel good, once you're allowing yourself to practice these things, so much opens up for you, and you're continuing to grow and level up and feel amazing. Alright, so you guys take care of you know that I'm here every Wednesday and then Thursday, you'll see the infographic of everything that I talked about. So make sure you get in there and you get that infographic for yourself so you're able to see and look at that information, because it'll help you to remember it more. And when you come to it. It's easy. Oh yeah, I'm gonna do this. I'm gonna do that. I'm gonna do this and I'm gonna do that.

You take care of you. What do we always do? Bring it in. Hmm, big squishy hugs. You take care of you. Ciao for now. Bye